Postpartum: the psychological state of the young mother
After giving birth, the body of a woman must undergo rehabilitation, including a psychological one.Unfortunately, often a young mother has a so-called postnatal or post-partum depression, when despite her tremendous love for the child, her mother is afraid to approach him, take her in her arms, sometimes there are fears to harm the child.
However, we will discuss at first not so "extreme" option. After the birth of a child, his mother devotes all his life to him. She ceases to notice everything and everyone around, ceases to pay attention to her husband, so that her husband - herself. If before the birth you were surprised by the stories of the girlfriends about the shower once every three days, then after the birth this way of life becomes the norm.
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In addition, the desire to perform marital debt often disappears, because now your body and your breasts perform the function of supporting the child, you are so warm and comfortable when the baby snakes at night sideways.And then my husband pesters with his stupidities. :-)
But remember - you are not only a young mother, you remain a woman, and you should remember that although the child has become an important part of your life, the rest of the spheres have not gone away. Moreover, if you drive yourself into a corner of responsibility and self-sacrifice, overwork will soon result in irritability and poor health.
Therefore, to eliminate this kind of difficulties, start with the most elementary, it would seem, effective - get enough sleep. Sleep with your baby during the day or immediately after feeding; trust him for an hour or two to your husband or grandmother and get some rest.
In addition, allow yourself simple earthly joys, allowing you to feel like a woman: take a relaxing bath, let yourself have a full meal at least once a day (rather than air raids on the refrigerator, when there is such a possibility), read a book or watch your favorite TV series. It is doubtful that you will have time for all this in one day, but at least one such “indulgence” will allow you to relax and calm down every day.
Read the discussion of our forum:And can there be a postpartum depression in the fifth year of the decree? ....
Now about sex.Of course, it is very important to work with them, it is important for your health and postpartum recovery, and for your marriage. But again, do not push yourself. If your sexual priorities after childbirth have changed, discuss it with your husband, say what you would like, maybe it is also not against diversity. If the idea of closeness in principle causes disgust, you should seek help from a psychologist.
Mum-forumchankaUAUA.info under the nameNatiNatiwrites:"After the birth, my husband and I had no sex for 2 months - I was still embarrassed to tell him that now I want smoother and more tender, homely or sex. And then he himself seemed to have guessed - and immediately my mood improved , and there was a desire to take care of myself. Why haven't I talked to him before? "
But sometimes it happens that personal, physical (hormonal) and social factors lead to severe prolonged depressions, when the mother is unable to care for the child, loses interest in life, etc. This usually happens if she previously experienced a large amount of stress, if no one helps her after giving birth or, alternatively, if she has suffered a difficult birth.
Family psychologist and private counselor for expectant parentsVera Storozhenkoso comments on this problem: “Such conditions are most effectively treated with special medication drugs. Unfortunately, this is not possible if you are breastfeeding. Therefore, the most optimal way out of this situation is regular conversations with the psychoanalyst, as much communication and support from your relatives (husband, relatives, , friends) and as much time as possible with the child (you can not one-on-one, but with the same relatives.) Also important role is played by courses for future parents. By attending them, ideally, you and your husband prepare (in turn-hand - psychologically) for a baby, and all the changes that it may entail. "
And finally - we sincerely hope that the birth of a son or daughter will bring joy and faith in the best to your life. And any difficulties will pass, thanks to the love and support of loved ones.