What will a liar give out in a conversation? Remember and do not deceive
PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF INTERLESSIONAL LIES
(common signs of stress):
So are the general signs of stress. At the same time, the very fact of a stressful state can be associated only with the personal characteristics of a person. Therefore, having perceived the interlocutor's nervous tension as a signal, one should proceed to the substantive identification of signs of his lies.
- drops of sweat appear, especially over the upper lip or on the forehead;
- dry mouth makes him want to drink;
- dry lips lead to their periodic licking;
- pupils constrict;
- breathing becomes heavy, gets an unpleasant smell
- exhale becomes noisy sighs deep
- the complexion changes (face reddens, fades or stains);
- facial muscles begin to twitch (eyelid, mouth corner, eyebrow tip, etc.); face tick appears
- mouth crooked, tense lips, a person bites or blows them;
- the body begins to shiver;
- there is a tremor in the voice;
- frequent blinking (blinking);
- periodically there is a desire to go to the toilet;
- uki covered with "goose skin"
- yawning begins;
- increased heartbeat, which leads to increased blood pulsation in the vessels; the pulsation of blood in the vessels on the neck, forehead, temples, and carotid artery becomes more noticeable;
- stuttering appears;
- nervous cough begins (coughing);
- control over timbre and tone of voice is lost: a higher timbre indicates a person experiencing tension, stress, as well as a voice with an increased volume; soft tone can be a manifestation of an attempt to weaken the vigilance of the interlocutor; quick speech may indicate insincerity; a very quiet voice gives out the fear felt by a person, like a sharp tone;
- frequent and / or strong swallowing of saliva occurs; while the Adam moves sharply.
MIMIC AND GESTICULATION AT CHEATING
When a person lies, he usually worries. Trying to cope with his anxiety, he unknowingly makes erratic, unjustified movements.
A LITTLE MAN:
- can not sit quietly in one place;
- pulls the edges of clothes, shakes off dust from her, removes mote (real or imaginary);
- fingering, rubbing his hands;
- touches head, straightens hair;
- concerns different parts of the face - the mouth. eye, ear, nose;
- plays with any objects (straightens a shirt cuff or a watch strap, sorts through sheets, ties or ties up laces, etc.)
- cannot restrain a trembling knee;
- seeks, as it were, to hide one’s body, take it out of your sight (leans on a cupboard, while actually hiding behind it, falling apart on a chair or armchair, sliding down from it under a table, etc.);
- biting lips or nails;
- smokes intensely;
- avoids the interlocutor's gaze (less than a third of the talk time is looked into his eyes; a frequently used way to avoid the partner's gaze is to look at the room in which the conversation takes place with a bored look);
- constantly looks you straight in the eyes (apparently, he is well aware that if a person avoids eyes, this is considered a sign that he is telling a lie); in such cases, it can be noticed if the person replays: this is normal: in ordinary cases, the gaze is not fixed motionless during the entire conversation: the listener, as a rule, looks at the speaker (as long as he is speaking) to showwhat he is listening to; the speaker often looks away, except for those moments when it is necessary to emphasize or show something that he has finished his speech;
- pulls down the collar of his shirt and intensively rubs his neck under it;
- scratches different parts of the face, neck, head;
- looking away downwards, one eye rubs heavily;
- shakes foot;
- legs socks to the exit;
The following signs may also indicate a person’s insincerity:
- fleeting changes in the expression of his face;
- mismatch between words and gestures (nodding his head for negative answers, shaking his head for negative answers);
- the body is turned away from the interlocutor;
- head lowered, chin retracted;
- eyebrows frown or rise;
- various movements are performed with their feet; shuffling, tapping on the floor, bending or extending the knees, throwing one's legs to the foot, impatient shift from one foot to the other;
- hands hold in the groin area (an unconscious attempt to defend oneself);
- hands hide, restlessly move or point to the side, involuntarily distracting attention; the palms of the hands are unconsciously hidden;
- a person holds on to an object (briefcase, chair, car door, etc.) or leans on it;
- periodically or constantly stroking (patting, masking) some part of the body (gesture of complacency); tugs on any item of clothing;
- hands are often rubbed or dried;
- nose periodically scratches, rubbing, especially in the process of conversation;
- a smile appears often, at the wrong time and for a long time;
- mouth during the conversation is covered by the hand; hands close to the mouth or throat;
- arms and (or) legs under the chair are crossed on the chest.
The following words, phrases, answers and features of speech may indicate the deceitfulness of the interlocutor.
An insistent belief in your own sincerity, in which he overly emphasizes his honesty, invariably insisting that he speaks only the truth (in cases where you have no confidence in his words):
- I swear by my health ...
- Honestly, I don't know ...
- I give my hand to cut off ...
- This is as true as what ...
- Honestly, it was so ...
And this is the most common and obvious verbal sign of a lie - evading the discussion of certain topics, questions (when they do not affect any unpleasant moments for a person):
- I can not remember ...
- I did not say that…
- I will not discuss this ...
- I do not see any connection here ...
- I can not answer this question ...
Unreasonably dismissive, challenging or hostile tone, when you are clearly provoked to rudeness:
- I do not know what is being said ...
- I don’t want to talk to you at all ...
- I do not have to answer your questions ...
Attempts to cause your sympathy, trust, feeling of pity, when previous relationships with this person did not lead to such a rapprochement:
- I am the same as you ...
- I have exactly the same problems ...
- I have a family, children ...
Short denials or indifferent, evasive answers to direct questions. Simple repetitive answers or repetitions of simple negation. Avoiding the use of the words "YES" or "NO":
- You said it yourself!
- I'm not sure.
- Do you respect me?
- You are undoubtedly a serious man.
- I know nothing about it.
Experience shows that a sincere person tries to speak more and defends his sincerity when you express doubts about her, whereas indifferent, evasive answers to direct questions do not fit into the concept of normal behavior.Such answers are caused by the fact that during the conversation it becomes harder and harder for a person to lie:
- the appearance of indecision in the statements;
- distracting the interlocutor with an incessant conversation or numerous questions;
- unwillingness or loss of ability to answer asked questions;
- long pauses before answering questions; too slow or confusing answers to questions;
- answer the question to the question;
- repeating the questions asked aloud or asking for clarification of the question;
- disguise the essence of the issue of unnecessary, irrelevant information.
- may express suspicion, distrust of you, without rendering any opposition in clarifying the circumstances of the case;
- Often gives exhaustive information with all the details, even not directly related to the case; verbose;
- constantly trying to kill you with his explanations;
- begins to actively defend himself before being accused or suspected of something.
At the same time GUILTY MAN:
- avoids detailed explanations, is laconic;
- restrains himself when answering questions;
- counteracts the interlocutor in clarifying the facts and circumstances on the subject under discussion
- may refuse explanations for no apparent reason;
- indicates the accuracy of small details in his explanations;
- expresses a desire to help you in clarifying certain circumstances.
The following features of his behavior may indicate the lie of your interlocutor:
- inconsistency of human behavior situation;
- a demonstration of exaggerated friendliness; smiling, when the situation does not have this;
- the provision of unsolicited assistance to you;
- focus on minor details;
- loud manifestation of indignation, outrage for a minor reason;
- demonstration of selective forgetfulness, inattention;
- visible change of behavior: from calm to agitated, excited, angry; the transition from the manifestation of responses to the absence thereof;
- making complaints of poor health, requests for medical assistance; in addition to the actual deterioration of general well-being, this may be a reception of distraction, a reason for curtailing the conversation.
In general terms, the order of active actions to detect lies may be as follows:
- ask direct questions, looking directly into the interlocutor's eyes, and follow his reaction;
- to look at an emphasis, with an obvious expression of doubt in the credibility of his statements;
- use speech, facial and other techniques aimed at enhancing the interlocutor's reactions.